Maybe yours is not a happily ever after. When it comes to the divorce, you may not get the house. In fact, neither of you may end up with the house, so you will need to learn how to move on and set up a new house for your own comfort. Look for an apartment, condo, or go on and purchase a home, it’s time to do you.

You will want to be sure that you know what you want in the divorce:

• You may want the house, but not fight for it and lose it.
• You may also want the house and get it, but then you realize you can’t afford the place by yourself.
• You may end up single, with children, and no income or little income. It can be hard for you to move on and purchase a home.
• If you have a less painful divorce and still talk civilized to your ex, you may want to ask them to keep their name on the house. If you have a co-ownership, you will both own the house and you can both continue to pay the taxes and the mortgage. This is very rare, but there are some couples who that in sake of the children. The judge will also take that in mind when it comes to the child support. However, it may just be best if you get a smaller house.

With a new and smaller home, you can sell your other home, stay somewhere near the area, and still be able to afford your home. It’s like trading your car in, it will help pay for the next one.

Keep in mind that with the downgrade, your children may feel like they have just lost their security bubble, but if you tell them that you are going to try to make everything feel like home and ask them to give the move a shot, it just might be what you need to keep both you and your children in positive spirits rebuilding your lives during the divorce process.

The first step to making a new home is to try to make everything seem a little familiar so as to create a familiar sense of security for the children. Things like matching the color of their rooms and try to make their rooms look similar to the original can help them adjust to the move.

On the other hand, if the kids are open to the divorce, then you may want to give them the chance to decorate their room themselves. As for the rest of the house, you can decorate it the way you would like. If you would like to have certain colors in your home, then go for it. If your kids are older than you should involve them in the full decorating process so that they feel more comfortable in the new home.

If you have any children still in school, you don’t want to move out of the school district as this might affect their grades and social behavior having to move to a new home, new school and make new friends. You will want to make the move as smooth as possible for the children.

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